forlon

No one wants to be lonely; still there are times where we feel that we are not surrounded by life. It might be deliberate or accidental but these times are real tough to handle. Most common thing which I hear is “it will bring out the best in you”, well that’s fine but the endurance it demands is something which all can’t live up to. There are instances where a person might think of giving up hope and some eventually crumble to the hardships associated with these times. As far as I am concerned I have a cool head on my shoulders which help me a lot to overtake these times but not necessarily win over them.
It all depends on the kind of nature we all have. Well what I do is, just lay back continue doing my thing and let the times pass. There are quite a few ways to deal with these times; one is more of a motorized way and it goes in phases. I think it works on a mantra that, “you’re only aim is to fulfill your dream and then after you will feel happy automatically”. To begin with, the initial phase is the most tricky where every sense of planning fails and it seems we are experimenting rather than preparing for the uncertainties. So what you do here is that you make quite a few arrangements get them started equally and then see how they work. But problem with these arrangements is that some start to take shape early and some shape up later. So here you have to be careful in making a trade off depending on the kind of outcome you are looking for. The next phase is more of execution and eradicating mistakes. This phase is challenging because executing in mind is entirely different from that in real world. So make the suitable changes in your mind and approach. The people who are go getters would immediately respond and try to manage differences by their sheer determination. The people who are mediocre in approach they will bring about huge alterations from time to time. Depending upon these alterations the outcomes would be predicted. Well this thinking is most common and easy to follow for those who are not human and more of their brain comprises of Intel-core processors rather than grey matter. I believe human beings plan things more often than not. I meet people who are so good in making plans, marketing themselves now and then. But when I look inside them they are terribly dumb.
The last approach is definitely not my way of dealing with lonely times. I think first of all a person should talk to himself continuously and inquire what he actually wants. Why is he unhappy with himself? A person cannot lie to himself at least. Most of the time people feel lonely when they are not heard even when they are audible. If someone is neglected by its surroundings then he is bound to feel lonely. It requires a great sense of rigidity to make yourself heard in the crowd which is ignorant to you. Usually it takes place within a family, in friends circle. This reason is not such a big obstacle because way of thinking changes when it comes to family whereas friends always go for a rotation depending upon your location. A different situation is when a person is ignored by someone whom he has fallen in love with. This reason of feeling lonely has risen sharply mostly among the youths. Well every boy or girl falls for opposite sex one time for sure, it’s just natural but making it a reason for feeling lost does not sound realistic. “Love is part of life not life, so why not get a life”.
A person should be aware of his weakness and strengths because he would need them both as weapons to battle these times. Loneliness in most of the circumstances arises when a person meets some kind of loss either human or material. The human loss can be only healed with time. Here a person has to show patience and learn from this period. This period has the capability to totally transform an individual into something else. The material loss requires a mix of both patience and motorized regime. This is not so destructive as the former since it is something which is material. Even if you gain material remuneration you won’t be at peace since there is always a fear of losing it again.
In the end I wish to say feeling lonely is just a state of mind. Every person deals with it differently. “Tough times don’t last but tough people do” that’s the saying from a famous book and I believe that. Some ride these times, some get stuck and some enjoy these situations. Time is something which will keep changing and time is something which we humans don’t have. Howsoever bad we feel but we cannot ignore the fact that we have to live and to live we have to work………continuously without any halt even if we wish to……..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Movies and Life

After the 9/11 incident next Oscars Tom Cruise gave the answer to the question “whether we should continue to celebrate the magic of movies? He said”More Than Ever”. A movie is not just a vision of the director, a portrayal by an actor or a story telling medium, it can sometimes totally bring about a change in the thinking of the person watching it. The movies which entertain provide a breakaway from our busy life’s; similarly action movie fill our nerves with the adrenalin. The movies that are related to sports are mostly motivating. They reveal a “never give up” attitude, make you believe that hard work and alliance is something which pays dividends.
When a person goes into a theater he goes from a reason very different from the other. A movie like Forest Gump which has so many flavors in it for the audience to feel, I find how simplicity can be so complicated. Next day when I had an argument with my friend about the movie he said “I find it to cheesy, unappealing and out of the world”. But one thing for sure, movie had certainly made a mark on my mind since it wanted to show how easily we ignore simplicity and get busy probing the things which are beyond our scope to understand. That’s why a dapper philosopher once said “the toughest puzzle to solve is which is simpler than the rest”. How about a movie like Schindler’s List, a splendid representation of the situation prevailing at that time, here full credit goes to Spielberg for incorporating the miniature of the factors. The beauty of the movie lies in encouraging the entrepreneurs that sometimes it's not just your vision but the prevailing times which can bring about a revolution in your bussiness.
More often you see an actor playing a part which is very similar to your real life. The character in behavior, flamboyance might be very similar which you are carrying in real world, so what we do we watch the movie with eager because it might go through stages in life also which we have gone through and might come out with an answer which we have not been able to find. A movie like UP IN THE AIR George Clooney plays a character which was very easy for me to relate to. Now since the character meets a tragic end does it make me think I will change myself? I guess not but I will definitely be more aware of the fact that such things might happen and I have to be more attentive of my surroundings and come up with some good decisions than clumsy errors. This is how a character adds on to our way of approaching life by presenting before us an array of hypothetical situations and their unique way of finding solutions to that.
Movies are sometimes pain since they have nothing to offer except economic carnage. The movies made for the sole purpose of entertainment is not in my criteria of discussion since they are like dreams some are good and some are bad. The movies I wish to see are the ones who bring about some changes in a person either short duration or for long duration. They have stood as encouragement for many, since people find readymade solutions for the sudden anomalies in life. In worst of periods we catch a movie to pass the sluggish time and carry nothing but dissapointment. Sometime we enjoy the movie so much that we not only take the souvenir but also carry a learning which the movie had to offer. But everything depends on how a person perceives the message which has been communicated. We all have same organs but they function entirely different, some understand the movie in a simplistic form but other might derive a complicated aspect of it.
It does not matter whether the movie is an action/drama /thriller/romance/tragedy/comedy/situational portrayal/biography what matters is the lucidity of the thought, the art of delivering a message, the efficient portrayal of the character by an actor, if these things lack the finishing then a movie will never appeal to the audience and they will leave the theater just as they came in……….!

women/complications---?

Though its a hard to understand what is inside a women's head but sometimes its easier to understand what is inside her heart. She is emotional but that's not bad at all since it completes what has been missing in a man's life. Recently i have come across quite interesting arguments as they say that a women best loves her family when an infant, her man when married and her child when she becomes a mother. As far as i go i think its just be easier for a man to accept woman just as, an other human being with different orientation altogether. A man thinks woman should understand him but isn't he letting go the fact that shes also a complicated mind who might feel for him but find it hard to understand the same. The complications a man faces is just. been to dependent/ to casual on the part of the opposite sex. Understanding a woman does not go beyond the very understanding of yourself, its just your reflection with the missing qualities which you are not born with. A life time where one has to provide livelihood, make a mark of himself is it really worth to give yourself a risk of knowing someone of entirely different dimension. Nothing in this world is constant than change, we all change then the original thought of knowing a person vanishes since with the time you might find yourself acquiring a new thinking. So how can you expect to know someone more than you as you yourself are bound for a change. Feel for someone who completes the puzzle of life , as he/she might have the missing parts. But you cannot complete your puzzle if someones has most beautiful parts but of a puzzle of different kind. A life will complete by itself sometimes it might not need that finding. When people are free, they feel everything has life even though. its elements are not with us. If a person can bring mortality to that sense in ones life then mind and heart won't be at war.

morning

A morning sets in, a plan is rolled out,
As the sun climbs, the thoughts grow out.
The long rays of sun as if racing away with dreams,
The brightness of the sun adding light to the spirits.
Again a person is lured by the fresh stimulus,
Chirping of the birds coincide with the internal rhythm,
Blue skies as if watching and counting the steps you take,
The trees sprinkle dew to make sure that you are awake.
A time to make a transition into the next phase,
Like a child grows and attains elderly age,
The watchful morning again is passing as nature screams
Man starts to be more ignoring as if he just woke up from his dreams.